I saw a Facebook post the other day that said, “A mother’s hug lasts long after she lets go.” So true.
My mother died almost two years ago. She wasn’t able to physically hug long before that. I can still feel her hugging me. There is no other feeling like it. It might be the most powerful energy force in this world. I think, when God wanted to give us a little taste of how it feels to be loved by Him, he invented the mother’s hug.
I realized something about physical interaction between a mother and child when my mom was in the various care facilities. Because of her frailty and cumbersome mobility assistance devices, it had been many years since I could easily hug or kiss her. I was always afraid that I’d fall into her if I leaned over and around enough to get to her. We talked about loving each other and demonstrated it, certainly. Still, physical affection, like many other aspects of her physical life, deteriorated more and more as she became more and more infirm.
When she was in the care facilities, it was much easier for me to reach out to hug her and kiss her and hold her. The barriers that helped her balance and move were not necessary anymore because she wasn’t balancing or moving. There was no need for me to lean awkwardly or worry about falling. That ability to connect physically was very nice for me and I think it was for her, too. Being able to reclaim physical affection was a gift we received during her final months.
I don’t think either of us realized how much we had been missing touch. One time, I was sitting by her bed, holding her hand, when I decided to leave because her roommate had a whole army of people visiting. I had difficulty loosening my hand from hers. Although she could no longer express herself well enough verbally to let me know how much she was loving my touch, she was communicating that message by clutching my hand. Now, I wish I had stayed right there holding her hand; army of visitors be damned.
You see, a daughter’s hug lasts long after she lets go, too. I hope my mom can still feel me hugging her now, even in Heaven.
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